If you are actively meeting and dating people, or looking to find someone special, you must get your dating practices down pat. And this starts with knowing how to go on first dates.
First dates are anything but what is often portrayed in a typical romantic movie. Men tend to build up the occasion in their mind for days or weeks beforehand, only to be severely let down after the fact.
Most guys have zero idea about what to do on a first date. They don’t know where to go, what to say, how to act, and most importantly, they don’t know how to set up a second date!
The following is a list of 5 of the best first date tips ever assembled
1. Be Yourself
Posturing some “better” version of whom you’d like to present is misleading to your date and sets the wrong tone for future interactions. It’s a game that can’t be maintained and guarantees dissatisfaction for both parties. The goal of dating is to find someone who wants what you want, and wants that with you. That’s only possible by starting with the ‘real you.’
2. Have Fun
Make up your mind, in advance, to have fun. Dating is a numbers game. Every time you meet someone new, you’re gaining vital information as to what you want (and don’t want) in a partner. No matter the outcome, this attitude allows you to walk away with a gain you can
3. Be a Good Conversationalist
Instead of just asking what someone does for a living or what their favorite film is, finding out why they do what they do or why they like that film will get them to reveal more about their personality and create a deeper connection.
Go to your date armed with some fun conversation ice-breakers and stories about yourself to share too. Ideally ones that are interesting or funny! And remember to really listen to what your date is telling you about themselves. The conversation will flow easier and far more naturally if you really listen instead of thinking ahead of yourself for the next thing to say!
4. Make Your Choices Carefully
Women want to be with a guy who has a sense of certainty in what he does and in what choices he makes. If it becomes apparent that she is not impressed with your choice of venue, smile confidently and say to her: “This is not your kind of place, is it?” Remember this should come across more like a statement than a question. Then tell her that she has to be the one to choose the next date, and this is very important, you must say this in a playful manner. Always stay committed to your decisions, and never be apologetic about them either. If she doesn’t like your choice of venue, then make up for it in the interaction. If the venue is more important to her than spending time with you, she’s not a keeper.
4. Assume That There Will be a Second Date
Two words: weak and generic. It lacks excitement and shouts uncertainty. When a guy says this to us on a first date, it gives us the impression that he is “testing the waters” because he is unsure if we will agree. Instead, try and implement what I like to call “future projections”. Example: During the date, when you feel it’s going well, say to her playfully: “Next time we have dinner, you order the wine,” or “Next time we meet, when we see a movie, I bet you’ll talk all the way through it.” As you can tell, these examples have a playful undertone to them, but most importantly, they are presuming that there will be another date without a flimsy question dangling at the end of it.