It’s not easy to deal with suspicions of cheating. So many things are at stake, including your relationship.
What if you are wrong? Oh, but what if you are right? What if you accuse your partner of cheating and it’s not true? What if they deny it? How will things change? Can you ever go back to being normal again?
If you suspect your spouse is cheating on you, there is a lot to think about.
But before you approach them, pay attention to some of these unfortunate signs that they might be cheating:
1) A Drastically New Look
Now, there is nothing wrong in trying a new look, but if the significant other suddenly starts wearing drastically different clothes, it is a cause for suspicion.
If they are suddenly dressing up for a night on the town, hanging out with new people and coming home at odd hours of the night without explanation, it means trouble.
If they try to to dodge the questions or change their story, something might be changing for them.
When partners are cheating, they are more likely to change the way they present themselves to the world because they want to appear desirable to someone else.
2) A Lot of Secrecy
If they seem to panic when you pick up their phone or laptop and are suddenly trying to control what you can and can’t do on their phone, something is wrong.
If you have been in a relationship for any length of time, you’ve had access to emails, texts, contact lists, or more and if they are pulling back from that access, it might be because there are suddenly new names and numbers in those contact lists.
3) They are Unreachable
Couples that have been together for a while tend to know each other’s schedule. If they are not where they are supposed to be, or if they are not open on what they are doing, it might be time to sit down and ask them what is going on.
When people are deceptive about their whereabouts or make excuses for why plans changed, things aren’t good.
If you can’t find them or reach them, there might be a reason for that and it’s because they don’t want you to.
“The most interesting aspects of their day may relate to their new flirtation…This can be more devastating than sexual infidelity as it implies the intimacy of day-to-day life is now being shared with someone new.”
4) Lack of Intimacy
Couples grow through dry spells, but if he or she is not even showing interest in you and nothing has really happened to cause the distance between you, cheating might be a reason why this has happened.
They don’t need anything from you because they are having their needs satisfied by someone else.
Guilt-ridden people may increase lovemaking at home…Some will do so to cover their tracks. But some may do so to satisfy a partner so that the partner will not be seeking sex at a later time when the cheater knows he or she won’t be available.”
5) Overly Emotional
If a partner has sudden mood swings, it’s probably not you they are frustrated with. Instead, they are projecting their own fears and insecurities on you.
It’s not always evident because some people change over time. Not everyone is who they first appeared to be and it does happen from time to time that one partner finds out the other partner is not who they said they were.
But if they have been in your life for a long time and are getting mad at you for things that don’t make sense, it could be a cover-up.